From my last day of work on 3 May 2024 to my upcoming first day of work on 15 Jun 2026, its been 2 years 1+ months of hectic yet fulfilling life as a Stay At Home Mum. I originally thought i would be back to work in May 2025, but i was left in a limbo after my company decided to abandon me to fend for myself. No support or help was given, and if help is given like "floating resume to other hiring team", its like a privilege to me. Just shows how much "Support" government gave to its own employees😕. Luckily on my own terms and effort, i found a good role in government that fits my wants! No leaning on anybody's referrals or support, just based on my own merits and efforts! Kudos to me! It was a very grueling and sad 6 months journey, but i did it!👏
I also took the time to slowly get back to think in a corporate way, not mummy's way to my baby. To be honest, my mind was quite foggy and till now its still in the "no schedule" wandering mind, but very soon i would need to be back in the grind and need to at least look sharpened, smart, and to handle work expectations. Till now i still apprehensive of how i going to go work on time, how to drag baby to school on time so i can quickly go work, and how i can leave work early so i can fetch baby. I felt so sorry to put her in school for more than 10 hours, she is only 2.5 yo 😞. If only my mum is free to help take care of her after school everyday, then i wont so heart pain. My mum in law live quite far and i dont want to bother her also. Not that i like her style too haha.
But through these 2 years i really understand why woman must work even if husband's income is enough. Firstly, you can spend your own money, on your own terms. No need to scrimp! Secondly, you don't need to stay home become yellow face wife, which im seriously starting to look like because i don't need to wear office clothes, just in my PJ everyday. Thirdly, there is finally a chance for you to dream of having the money to go overseas and to enjoy your vacation without worrying that im exceeding my tiny budget. I realise that in the past when im in office everyday, i would looked outside and dream like Wow if im on leave now i will go eat fancy lunch, go shopping, etc. Then when i dont have a job, i looked outside and think Wow if i got money and a job, i can go outside and walked around and shop. Turns out, either way i cant enjoyed my "go outside shopping care freely" life, unless im retired with my bucket of gold. Harsh realisation😟 Fourthly, i got a life outside of baby and family and house chores, which is seriously something that i missed when i did not go to work.
So now, is the time for me to go out there, earn my own keep, build my retirement fund and do well in my career. I dont aimed to be promoted but at least income should be coming in so that i can invest and stay afloat in the tumultuous time when there are tight job market demand. I would buy stocks for baby, build up her portfolio so that when the times comes, i can hand her at least $100K and say "Do what you like, we got you covered." There's nothing more reassuring then having some financial backup set aside, so you can do the things that you like and slowly build up your money making skills.
Hui Fang, jiayo! & to all you readers out there, jiayo too! We can do this!💓
